User Profile

I am a queer, fat, feminist, genderqueer, pervert, radical, outspoken sort of person -- and that's probably why you're reading me. If not, maybe it's because I'm the non-traditional ("alternative"?) mother of twins. Or, perhaps you know me best from my writing and editing? I have a couple anthologies under my byline, plus a couple dozen short stories scattered here and there. I'm probably best-known as a smut writer although I am kinda-sorta retired from that. I am also fairly well-known as a nonfiction magazine writer, with clips in Curve and a long-running music column in the now-defunct Girlfriends magazine. I also do poetry, speculative fiction, and just plain unclassifiable stuff. When I have time, that is.

For fun, I cook and eat a lot. I read a lot of books of all sorts (no, really, cookbooks to ancient history to media theory to spec fic to...). I watch trashy movies on DVD and sometimes in the theater. I garden in pots, awkwardly but with much enthusiasm. I don't drink coffee of alcohol, but you'll have guessed by now that that hardly makes me a Mormon. ("Don't drink, don't smoke, what do you do?") I really do like long walks on the beach, though, preferably in the middle of the night. Also cemeteries, gardens, and parks. I also like dancing, in crowds or where nobody can see me at all. I only sing when I think nobody can overhear me. I like lilacs and tiger lilies and morning glories.

This is my personal journal. That is, I talk mostly about my day-to-day life here, and not so much about writing or editing or whatnot, except as that intersects with my everyday life. Which it does, and often, but usually obliquely. I do post reviews, and events, and snippets of works in progress, but irregularly.



Also, a disclaimer:

I consider this journal a work in progress. More importantly, I consider this journal as a whole "the work," and the entries in it more like chapters.

In other words, some of what I say here depends on the context of previous entries.

I realize that I have made it difficult to easily access said context by, oh, I dunno, not tagging my entries, or giving them titles, or the like. My bad. Maybe I will fix this going back, or into the future. I don't know. We'll see. I'll try.

In the meantime, I really don't want to make this journal friends-only or not public. I like having this journal resemble an ongoing conversation that people can overhear, listen into, and eventually join.

But it's a good idea to listen for a while before jumping in. OK? That's all I really ask.

Thanks.

P.S. Partly as a result of the aforementioned, this journal is not safe space (whatever that means. This still isn't it). I refuse to be anyone's emotional caretaker here. This is my journal and my space and my rules. This is not a community space, it's a personal (if public) one. Please modify your expectations accordingly.

P.P.S. There are people on my "friend's list" whom I do not know in RL, and people I know and like in RL who are not on my "friend's list." It's nothing personal if you're added or not added, and most of my entries are unlocked, so you're not missing much regardless.

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